What love are we talking about?
We say that we "love" chicken - and we devour it (this one would prefer not to be loved in this way!). But it is also said that the mother loves her child .. sometimes up to being "devoured" by him. We love chocolate, we love his boyfriend (his girlfriend) .. we love, we love.. you LOVE ???
Hence the need to enlighten this word, to avoid disappointments and injuries.
"…Tell me about love… !"
To love is first to DESIRE: one is attracted to the other, one wants to be with the other, one wants to see him ... At that moment the other is my "good", my happiness. I need him, his presence ... I love each other FOR ME. I seek MY pleasure or MY happiness through the other. (In Greek, this love-desire is called "eros" - hence the word "erotic".)
The DESIRE is the "starter" of love, his "launcher", his first engine.
Is that enough to say that it's love?
If there is only desire or attraction in my relationship, it can not last.
Demonstration: we have ALL the defects, the limits (damage for all those who thought to have found "the" perfect type, "the" topissime girl) ... so: after the first moments of emotion and passion, the day when the other will discover other faults or other limitations in me, or I will discover them at home (it), if it is based only on the attraction our relationship will stop!
A love that is only desire or attraction, even if it's shared, it's not love, it's just "love-chocolate": it's good, but that can not last.
For love to last,
it is necessary that, in addition to the desire and the attraction, there is OTHER THING: a strong relation, a relation made of exchange, respect, sharing of values ... I must desire the other, but also and above all, that his happiness is close to my heart.
To be able to say (and especially think) that I really love (in the sense of the love I need, which can last and go through the difficulties of life), it is necessary that I know the other differently than in his appearance, his body, that I know what is close to his heart, its values, its context (family, social, etc. ..) and that I know the (the) RESPECT.
Love makes me leave me, my personal interests. I am able to pass the happiness of the other in front of my ego. I want to give him happiness, and even give myself to him.
There is talk of LOVE! whoever can look to the future and make plans, the one I would like to protect and for which I am ready to fight!
If I am with the other only because he (she) does me good, because he (she) attracts me, then I take the other one, but I do not give myself!
And passion?
The love-desire can be violent and become passionate - the passion of love, when we really want each other, we are under his charm (physical or sentimental), that we have in the skin. " It's stronger than me. It is said that one falls in love. It's the same with love at first sight. This emotion can make us lose our head if it is not controlled. Like the fiery horse racing.
But beware: the thunderbolt or the passionate love never last, any more than a horse can gallop unceasingly. Moreover, if love is only that, it becomes possessive, consumer of the other. One ends up "devouring" what one claims to like. The passionate relationship locks us up, locks up the other, encloses me ... while love opens to others and energizes in a general way.
TIME IS THE ENEMY OF PASSION, BUT THE FRIEND OF LOVE.
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